Saturday, April 14, 2018

A guide to embracing your emotions

Let's talk about emotions.
They are a part of us all the time. Anger, sadness, joy, love, fear and all the subemotions that we also feel and usually can be placed under one of the bigger ones like frustration, jealousy, gratitude and bliss
Emotions are much like a rollercoaster. Reaching highs, lows, taking spins, twists and turns.
We may not always be comfortable feeling them, but it is a big part of your human experience.
So, what do we tend to do when we feel something that we rather not? We open up that big box, push those emotions in and lock it with a key. We say:  "I don't want to deal with you."And what happens when you keep doing that? One day when you open the box that happens to be full and you try to put it in all these emotions just come bursting out, because there is no more space.

And we find another person being in complete and utter surprise because you just massively freaked out about someone not picking up the towels from the floor.

Let's look at emotions like an indication that you are triggered by an outside experience. Something happens --> you think something about it --> you feel a certain way. 

Let's say that you were trying to make coversation with a coworker who replies to you with a snappy comment. You may think: 'Wow she really doesn't like me' which will probably bring up a negative emotion.
Whatever that emotion is dependent on your frame of reference.
Let's say you were sad and it made you think of a past workplace where you bullied.
You really don't want to feel like that, so box goes open, emotion goes in and it's locked in with the key. 


You feel that emotion. Realize that it is coming from a place where you previously experienced pain and give yourself a hug.
It's good to deal with your emotions in the moment the best you can to prevent a big burst out like the one I described.

Sometimes it is not always possible though. An emotional reaction in a professional space can be tricky. 

I am a very emotional person, so when I react from emotion I do it big. When I'm sad, I cry. When I'm angry, I'm very angry. -Trust me: it's not pretty-
I use the box, but not to stuff it.

Here's how to use the box differently.
Realize that this is a feeling you have. Pause it.
Open box, put in the emotion, close it but don't lock it.
When in a safe space: open the box, take out that emotion, feel it and embrace it.

It's how I prevent a big freak out over 'nothing'
I have also found that my head is much more clear when I deal with my emotions as they come and go.
There's more space is the way that I would describe it.

What are your ideas about embracing emotions?
I would love to hear about them.



  1. I need to get better at embracing emotions, I often shut them out to the point where me & my best friend joke about being robots but that can get rather tiring! x

  2. I can imagine that it will cost more energy to do the holding on than to release it :)
    I've been there too. Thanks for stopping by and taking time to read

  3. I definitely struggle with this. Especially when it comes to the more negative emotions. I don't like feeling anger or sadness so I just bottle all this emotion up instead. It's not a very good way to deal with things.

    1. I had to learn the hard way myself. I had so many of these little freakouts over completely nothing that it made me realize it's not the way to go. Negativee emotions are a nasty thing to feel, but it can be a great relief.

  4. I'm awful at expressing my emotions, it's definitely something I need to be working on. Especially negative ones, I usually see it as a waste of time worrying about them so I carry on as usual. Great post x


    1. I encourage you to start doing it. There's also many creative outlets you can put these emotions into. Maybe that might work, so you don't feel like you are worrying about them?

  5. This was a great post, it's definitely something I struggle with at times!

    1. And I really get that as well Shauna. It's been a long journey to get here. But it was worth it :)

  6. This was a great post to read. I struggle with showing my emotions, and also, showing them appropriately. It stresses my fiancé out and I do try but it's so difficult to do at times.

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    1. Showing your emotions can make you feel vulnerable, so I get that! I haven't always been too charming with expressing mine.

  7. I couldn't agree more with all of these :) I love staying active during the day when I know I won't have time to properly workout, and I feel better at the end of the day too!


    1. Thank you Perrine :) I think you meant to comment on my other blog.
      I know so many of us have our lives all fully booked. So, I thought these tips would come in handy